I was just reflecting on the previous year that went by and how we think of it as a closed chapter and dump all the not so good things that happened and how 1st Jan makes you feel like a fresh new start. While talking to a client last week the famous topic or question of every living human in new year is…..” What is your new year’s resolution??”. Resolution? Really? I thought to myself I never made one! Why do you need a new year to make resolution!. Nevertheless it did got me thinking why not have one.. so we exchanged our “resolutions” and to my wonder he said ” To be more positive” now isn’t that cliched?!
Though being positive is highly overrated we have lost its simplicity and importance. It boils down to your behavior which is a result of your thoughts and habits where WORDS you speak play a major role.
Let’s talk more about words…Go grab your coffee sit back and read on….
Words are one of the greatest and most enduring gifts that have ever been bestowed upon man.
Speaking comes to most people as naturally as breathing and we think little of the power of words. On many occasions our words are uttered without conscious thought; in fact we rarely stop and think about what we are saying.
Words have tremendous power. Words give out energy and a message which creates a reaction in others. Everything you say produces an effect in the world. Whatever you say to someone else will produce some kind of an effect in that person. We are constantly creating something, either positive or negative with our words.
Here are 8 words commonly used in our everyday conversations with ourselves and others that we need to monitor and change in order to bring about the positive future we really desire
“I’ll try to get it finished by…” “I’ll try to catch up with you on Saturday”
Whenever I hear someone saying this, or even myself, then I know that they are not serious and it is not going to happen.
Try is a wishy washy word that is devoid of commitment, leaving wide open the space for excuses to creep in and get in your way. No one created the life of their dreams and positive results by trying. They got theirs by doing and making it happen.
Make a clearer commitment instead by saying “I’ll have it done by…” “I am free at this time and I can meet you then…” or if need be, “I can’t promise anything but I will do my best to ….”
Wishing is sitting on your couch daydreaming, waiting for your lotto ball to drop or the fairy godmother to appear. Wish removes yourself from the equation and tells you that you have to rely on the powers that be.
Change wish to “I will…” “I am…” I’m determined….” “I deserve…” “I desire”
- I am
Be very careful how you use the term “I am” to define who you are. You are not angry; you are not depressed, you are not happy. All of these things are temporary emotions that come and go. If you define yourself as being this way than that identity can have a tendency to stick and what will follow will be excuses such as “I can’t do this because I am depressed” “There is nothing I can do about it, this is who I am.”
A better way to say it is “I feel angry. I feel depressed”
This lets yourself know that it is a temporary feeling which could quite easily change.
How many times do you mutter, “If I get that client then…” “If the money arrives then…”
“If” always presents the element of doubt. Doubt and insecurity don’t bring you what you want, certainty and confidence does. So instead of “if” , simply make it “when”
“When I get that new job…. “
When signals that you are serious and committed and you believe that what you deserve is on its way to you.
- I can’t
This is one of those words that can be debated. We’ve all heard there is no such thing as can’t. Well there is really, I can’t sing. I really can’t. I’m dreadful. But you know what, I can try or I can learn.
As soon as your brain hears you say the word can’t, it goes on a holiday. It shuts down and celebrates because it no longer has to find a way to do it. “I can try” means that you open up a creative space for learning and exploring that may just bring you new ways of thinking and doing.
When your employees says “Sir/ Madam, I can’t,” let your response be, “Maybe, but you can always try first and see. Let’s have a go!”
When we really want something there is a tendency to attach the word desperate to it, as if this word will hold some power to bring it to us faster.
“I am desperate for him to call me” “I am in desperate need of a sale.”
Desperation breeds more things to be desperate about. It is not an attractive word.
Instead say “I am so excited that he is going to be calling me tonight. “I really desire sale and am ready to go!”
This is my least favourite word. I really despise it as I often hear it said to me, “You are so lucky to travel and meet so many entrepreneurs like you do.”
I just want to scream. Luck has nothing to do with it. There has not been some genie in anybody’s backpack. I do it because I made the decision to do it and then I took action. Luck has never played a part in it.
And luck never will play a part. If you always fob other people’s success off as luck, you are doing two really bad things
1) Not recognizing and appreciating all the hard work they have put into bringing about the life they desire
But more importantly
2) You are saying that it is not possible for you. So you give up before you even start creating the life you want. You think it will only happen to you if a genie appears. This is such a lie. You can have whatever you desire as long as you are willing to do what it takes to get it.
Successful people are characterized by the words that they speak. They know the importance of speaking words that will build self-esteem and confidence, build relationships and build possibilities.
Successful people take control of their words, rather than letting their words control them. They are more conscious of their thoughts and words and the power they unleash.
To have more personal success in our life, our words need to be in alignment with our vision and our dreams. Your words can determine your destiny.
Now. Before you speak ask yourself: “Is what I am about to say going to uplift the hearer? Will it inspire, motivate, and create forward momentum for them? Will it dissolve fear and create safety and trust? Will I create a positive or negative ripple effect by speaking out these words?” Let‘s be determined to unleash the power of words for positive change.
Article Source: http://www.lifeoptimizer.org/2011/08/17/watch-your-words/